Everyone in life has feelings of inferiority and insecurity. Even the seemingly most confident people suffer from these feelings from time to time. We’re all human and will never be able to be perfectly secure, so we might as well use these feelings as fuel to help us move forward.
Embrace Your “Darkside” and Use It as Motivation
Many people spend their lives ignoring, and not wanting to admit they have insecurity issues. These feelings manifest themselves through shyness and pride. Psychologists have identified that the most content and successful individuals are comfortable with their fallibility and weaknesses. They don’t except them, but they also do not ignore them.
Once you identify a problem and are secure with it, you can then do something about it. If you’re insecure, so what! Welcome to the club. Don’t be ashamed to admit it to yourself that you have feelings of inadequacy. This principle of admission is the first step in many rehabilitation programs because no one can ever overcome or improve on a problem that they won’t admit they have.
Now that you’ve admitted you’re like everyone else and have some insecurity problems you can harness it and use it as fuel for self-improvement. Get books on the subject and put yourself in situations where you’ll feel uncomfortable so you can grow. Also, start hanging out with people that stretch you in this area. Spend time with a friend, coworker or loved one that is ultra confident. Observe how they react to situations and ask them how they manage to be so secure.
Focus on Developing Strengths not Weaknesses
Most people spend their lives’ frustrated because they are constantly trying to improve in the areas where they are weak instead of strong. It’s human nature to focus on things that we’re not good at. It’s more productive to develop what you’re already naturally gifted at. When we always focus on trying to get good at things we are gifted naturally to do, we end up feeling frustrated and inadequate.
On the other hand, if we focus on developing our natural skills and talents we get good results that feel natural. In other words, we spend more time “in the zone.” Think of what happened when Michael Jordan retired from basketball and tried baseball. He struggled and was a poor player. Why? Because he was gifted at basketball and wasn’t supposed to be playing baseball.
If you have a hard time identifying your skills and strengths then talk to someone in the career services office of your college or university. It’s their job to help you identify these types of things.